The holidays are a time of giving, joy, and helping others. However, what do you do when someone does not want to be helped? This is especially common in aging adults with a “I can do it myself” mentality. Unfortunately, this mindset can prevent loved ones from accepting the help they need. This holiday season, having a candid conversation with a loved one can be productive. An article by Psychology Today offers recommendations on helping those close to you that claim they do not need it. Although this article refers to those with mental health challenges, such as depression and anxiety, it can be related to other circumstances. For example, an Alzheimer’s patient that refuses to pay for home health nurses. Or, a family member, whose health is declining, unwilling to organize their affairs. No matter the situation, these tips can assist in beginning tougher conversations.
Being Patient
It is necessary to give loved ones ample time to process their situation. It may be more difficult to realize the level of care they are in need of. Being patient with their thought process builds trust and eventually paves the way for advice.
Asking To See A Professional
This involves gently recommending a professional that can explain the situation. Some examples might be a specialized doctor, therapist, or lawyer.
Keeping Emotions in Check
In the face of a stubborn family member, tensions can rise quickly. They may be defensive. They may be irrational. Remembering to have compassion and calmness can show the individual you have their best interest at heart.
Reevaluating Your Relationship
Having these conversations can put a strain on the relationship. If you, as a caregiver, feel a disconnect in communication, it may be time to call in reinforcements. Having another person assume communication roles, or even offer a simple conversation, can positively shift the care recipient’s perspective.